"It is not enough to love the children; they must be aware that they are loved"
Nowadays the suicide rates among the age group of 10-25 keep on increasing for consecutive years. People with chronic pain, mental illness, traumatic stress/depression, loss/fear of loss, socially isolated, and feeling like they are a burden to others are more prone to commit suicide. These symptoms are extreme that a person with severe hardship alone can choose the option called suicide. But how a small child of age 10-25 can choose to disappear from his/her life as they have not seen the main problem yet and just trying to? But the result is just the opposite of our assumption. The only contact a child has is their parents and to a certain extent, siblings, and close relatives. So we can conclude that the parents-children relationship isn't good, they are not qualified enough to do so. But our society just keeps on glorifying parents which are even more toxic.
Are parents are really good?
Of course, there are no ideal things in this universe, ideal one is an utopian one that exists only in dreams. Parents too humans, they too do mistakes but the point is they have to be in a position to correct themselves. Because if they are updated, ready to make mistakes and learn from them if they keep on improvising alone will reflect on their children.
Parents of previous generation
It is necessary to learn day by day even after for schooling to give a children with good personality as the hierarchy of needs keeps on changing from time to time. For instance, our grandparents keep on saying 'eat well, why are you so lean', because they experienced the Bengal famine, in 1943 which caused the death of many people due to starvation. After that only, our government started the Food Corporation of India (FCI) and initiated many schemes to not repeat the same in the nation. So, in that period, food is a much priority.
Current parents, their mindset and the chaos
Current parents are raised in a middle class mostly whose mindset is just stereo-typed and narrow, based on honor and other unwanted and unscientific things which they aren't ready to leave and adapt to this modern fast pace world, but the children are already in the modern world who doesn't know about their world. That's why most children find problems with their parents which often leads to a conflict. Again when the children try to talk with the parents, some of them are ready to speak it out accept the mistake but some aren't ready, instead they started blaming themselves or the children and searching for solutions in horoscopes and mythological and not in a scientific manner. As they were brought up in the middle class, they see honor as the most important thing which a man needs but it often ends up in a mess. They started pushing one's child to get first in the class and not focussing on any other skills. But they expect us to know those too. If the child don't know they started to lecture instead of teaching them. Also, they behave like a sadist, when the child did a mistake unknowingly they just screw up like anything which make the child's mind even worse so so that they can't repeat anything new in their life which is even more dangerous. They just killing the children's most enjoyable character of innocence, craze over a thing, and doing mistakes. The child, thus, lost its childhood days without enjoying it.
It reflects in further ages also, that the guy never tries a new thing and just afraid of doing anything new. Of course, they have to be with some proper guide but with that naughtiness through which a guy/girl can enjoy his teen gets lost. Thus, half of their life gets spoiled by this way of parents.
Whats the solution for the children......
The government's helpline for children under the age of 18, called 1098. What if the guys face the same issue after the age of 18 or in between the age group 18-25? If the guy complains to the police, it's a threat for him, the police will come to home and advice to parents and the parents may behave even more abusive and worser than before. Also, he can't move legally where getting evidence is not as easy until the guy/girl got physically harassed. He can't get out of the home as he might have to pursue some degree which is essential in any job nowadays. What if he pursues MBBS? The fees of MBBS is too high and workload too, It's difficult for him to move or quit the home. Also, he can't get any free counseling too! Government hospitals provide those counseling without any privacy where 4-5 cases sitting in a small room and discussing which make the guy more awkward, and also the doctors aren't ready to hear the patient's voice. Now the guy is helpless!
Only when humans are satisfied with small needs they will move to big needs - Moslow
Teen is an age to fulfill almost all wants and needs. If a guy fulfilled their desires of being happy with food, shelter, being with their loved one and satisfied with their physical relationships, feeling secure with family and relationships then only his taste of achievements will build even higher and his status keep on increasing and his productivity to his society is much more. Thus he becomes a good human and also a good citizen of his nation. But our parents just make our children spoil our children's half of the life in the name of honor, being good, blah, blah...... It neither be a productive for him nor to this society but it's a burden for him only. It's his parents' mistake for which he can't blame them too. There is no open space for children to accuse parents legally/psychologically/ethically too. Where these children will go and tell/her problems? Our society is just glorifying parents literally like a god and children are slaves to them. This situation has to change.
It's s not a myth created against parents like a dark villainized shade to them, many gets affected and not got the space to let it out. Also if they vent out to the wrong person, they might misuse them in the wrong way. So there is no way for children to say that their parents are not good, or they need some mental peace or similar to that.
Nowadays most children are having internet access and the information is just over-flowing. As it's an age of information, we get lots of data mostly whether might be fake or not true too. But to a certain extent aware that what is wrong and what is. Films are started arriving and memes are created with films representing toxic parenting which seems to be a healthy reformation, even though a small pace, is welcomed
Toxic Parenting and its loop
These parents are toxic and are against their children's progressive character and behavior. But some children feel this parenting is really good and started believing their parents and if they practiced this toxicity with their children, it becomes a loop and more dangerous than these toxic parents. Breaking down the loop and making sure that this won't repeat by educating newly married couples (exactly what we did in reproductive health which helped us to control the population and taught us to have a healthy and hygenic way to copulate) is the only way to eradicate this culture.
Effects of toxic parents on children are permanent which creates a feeling of guilt, fear, and humiliation. In the future, the guy/girl never comes out of the trauma and this is a never-ending story for that guy. The parents have to learn the boundaries with their children and provide them space and privacy. Much, more importantly, they have to be given equal respect as everyone.
There are around 10% of children commit suicide, for various reasons maybe, but the prime common thing is lack of self-confidence which is an effect of parenting failure. These news channels and media glorify the suicides by showing them in live telecasts. This society started behaving emotionally toward the issue and the government financially compensated the family. These may create many copycat suicides in society which is even more dangerous. The remaining 90% of children aren't good with their families; they too face the same problem but they have some vision for them, overcoming this trauma these guys are dying everyone which is horrible
Children aren't the sole property of the Parents!
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